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RCM
01-26-2012, 10:02 AM
It seems people can get addicted to anything nowadays. Sex addiction is my favorite.

"QUINCY - Matthew Spadaro had nowhere to go. He had just been kicked out of his mother’s apartment that summer morning in 2010 and was lost in his hometown, his pale skin and brown eyes smarting from the sun. With throbbing temples, Spadaro wandered the streets of Quincy alone, in a blur, until he checked into Father Bill’s homeless shelter.

“I felt like a drug addict coming off his high,’’ Spadaro said.

It wasn’t drugs that he was coming off of, but video games. For 10 years, Spadaro immersed himself in a world where he lived in castles, conquered his enemies, and said he felt like a god. But stripped from that virtual world he was a broke 25-year-old, 30 pounds overweight, with no friends, little work experience, and nowhere to sleep but a room with 100 other men.

Spadaro’s story of video game addiction is not uncommon. Many children of the 1980s and 1990s who grew up playing video games are still playing today. The average age of a gamer is now 37 and rises with each year, according to a study by the Entertainment Software Association, the Washington-based trade association for the US video game industry.

For some adults, computer games are a hobby, a way to relax for a few hours after a challenging day at work, or something fun to do with friends on the weekend. But for Spadaro, computer games were more than a hobby; they became his life.

‘These game companies are designing virtual heroin, and no one is saying anything.’
Andrew Doan, neurosurgeon

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Spadaro began to play video games as a child, like most boys his age. Born with a heart condition and raised by a single working mother, he found games an entertaining way to pass time. But soon the pastime grew into something much larger, and by his junior year in high school, he said he often put off his homework to play computer games.

After barely graduating, Spadaro enrolled in a community college but said he dropped out halfway through his first semester because by then he was so consumed by the virtual world that the real world seemed boring and too arduous.

Game designers have spent years trying to understand and cater their products to customers’ emotional needs, said Andrew Doan, a neurosurgeon at Johns Hopkins University and author of “Hooked on Games.’’

Doan said that video games, playing to people’s desire for accomplishment, socialization, and urges for control and power, are designed so that players will keep playing forever. In the years since the development of what the industry calls “massive multiplayer online role-playing games,’’ such as World of Warcraft, game companies have been able to derive revenue not only from game sales but also on the monthly payments players make to keep their gaming accounts active.

A 1998 London study found that video game use releases dopamine in the frontal cortex, a neurological pathway, creating an effect similar to that of cocaine use. Since then, Doan said, subsequent studies have found other neurological similarities between video game use and drug use.

“These game companies are designing virtual heroin, and no one is saying anything,’’ he said.

In the years following high school, Spadaro said, he played about 12 hours a day, rarely emerging from his bedroom at his mother’s apartment, and unable to stop playing until his vision went blurry.

He worked part time at places like Honey Dew Donuts, just to pay for upgrades in the game. During days when he was torn away from the game, such as on holidays with family, he said, his mind was consumed with thoughts of when he might get to play again.

Sometimes, in moments of shame, he would tell himself he was done with video games forever, but he said those were short-lived and overpowered by the pull the game had on him.

People in the gaming industry insist the games are meant to be fun, and nothing more. John Hopson, a former game researcher for Microsoft and current lead design researcher at Bungie, the company that created Halo 3, specializes in using behavioral psychology to design games with reward schedules to make sure players want to play forever, but doesn’t understand why people are so uncomfortable with that.

“Furniture companies design chairs that fit a person’s body, and you don’t see anyone getting upset with that,’’ he said over the phone. “What’s the difference of a video game company designing a game to form to a person’s mind?’’

A lot, some addiction psychologists say.

Hilarie Cash, a psychologist and licensed therapist, said that smart young men are initially drawn to a game for intellectual stimulation but are quickly hooked on the dopamine release the game gives during play.

After working with gaming addict clients for years, Cash decided to open the nation’s first computer addiction rehabilitation center in 2009. The facility in Fall City, Wash., known as ReSTART, is a 45-day-minimum program where patients have no access to technology.

But costly therapy and rehab programs are realistic options only for some. Other recovering gaming addicts join local 12-step programs for drugs and alcohol, seek out family, or build relationships with other ex-gamers.

For Spadaro, living at the homeless shelter was the cold, hard wake-up call he needed to face the first steps of his recovery. The first few days at the shelter, Spadaro said, he was angry with his mother for kicking him out, physically sick, and in a confused blur.

“I felt my old world was flipped upside down,’’ he said.

But in coming weeks, with little access to computers and the rigid rules of the shelter, Spadaro’s mind began to clear. He sketched often, and learned chess. He made friends with former drug addicts and sober alcoholics, all activities that helped him see what life could be like without computer games.

But it was through attending daily Alcoholics Anonymous meetings at the shelter, where he first admitted he was powerless over his addiction, that his recovery truly began.

Spadaro’s dream is to start a program in the Boston area for gaming addicts that uses the same 12 steps as Alcoholics Anonymous, such as admitting to the addiction and surrendering to a higher power for strength to overcome temptation.

“AA was great for me,’’ he said. “But I also struggled to fit in there. I think computer addicts might be more likely to seek help if there was a group more tailored to our issues.’’

Spadaro, who now lives in his own apartment in Wollaston, said he hasn’t played a video game since the first day he checked into the homeless shelter, more than a year and a half ago. After nearly severing family relationships during his addiction, he has since reconciled with his mother and sister; his eyes lit up as he talked about the recent weekend he spent with his sister. While Spadaro said he has a long way to go to full recovery, he is proud of the progress he’s made so far.

“I hadn’t the slightest idea of what my life would be like without getting high and escaping reality,’’ he said, referring to the euphoria he experienced through computer games. “But I fought every day the best way I knew how.’’"

SOURCE: http://bostonglobe.com/metro/regionals/south/2012/01/26/video-game-addict-shares-his-story-and-way-out/GFzhZIXxC6TKus6EJqUnMJ/story.html

Oobgarm
01-26-2012, 10:32 AM
Moderation is key.

That is all.

G-Boobie
01-26-2012, 10:35 AM
Another one of these, huh?

Oh well.

AceAerosmith
01-26-2012, 10:46 AM
Whatever.

Edmond Dantes
01-26-2012, 11:15 AM
Yay, I needed my daily dose of scaremongering bull.

The Shawn
01-26-2012, 11:58 AM
If I ever go to an AA meeting I think I'll bring an old GBA and see if anyone has a 12 pack of beer for trade.

Robocop2
01-26-2012, 12:19 PM
What about people who are addicted to writing senstionalist pieces about some random person who has problems coping with reality?

Lady Jaye
01-26-2012, 01:37 PM
Another sensationalistic piece indeed, where you don't see a balanced outlook as to the reasons behind the so-called addiction. It goes beyond games; if it weren't for videogames, he probably would have fallen into alcoholism or drugs, or even just some obsessive escapist behavior.

The unfortunate outcome of such an article, though, is that once more the non-gaming masses will read this and believe that "OMG, games are like drugs! I gotta get my loved ones away from them!", whereas the medium itself is no better nor worse than any form of entertainment.

Look at it this way: when I was a teen, I went through a rough period (like most teens), and my way to deal with it was through books and movies. Others will use video games or even sports as a similar crutch, while some people may opt for something more extreme like drugs.

crazyjackcsa
01-26-2012, 01:47 PM
I tried to give up breathing once. I COULDN'T DO IT!!! OH DEAR GOD I'M ADDICTED TO AIR!

Zama
01-26-2012, 03:06 PM
There are far worse things in life than video game addiction :(

xelement5x
01-26-2012, 03:49 PM
There are far worse things in life than video game addiction :(

That's what every addict says ;)

Sanriostar
01-26-2012, 04:33 PM
I'm not gonna give this short shrift; you always see these replies whenever game addiction gets talked about.
Guys, contrary to the conventional wisdom in this thread, gaming can be addicting. I had a friend and former roommate get addicted to WoW. It cost him his job and eventually our awesome, awesome late 50's Tiki kitsch apartment. It took him losing another living arrangement after ours to finally 'get it' and not play.

He still struggles sometimes. It can get a hold on people's brain and not let go. Please don't just knee-jerk "What a bunch of BS!" and discard it.

klausien
01-26-2012, 05:56 PM
Umm, yeah. Yet another shrouded crack at diminishing and stigmatizing our hobby. I'm a liberal person, but I don't care; you've got to take care of your s#it. I blame his parents to a degree, but when you are already 25 with no perspective on reality, there's no excuse. It's a virtual world. It's not real. You have to get out and explore the real world because that is where you are actually living your life. Being a human being is an everyday struggle, and we truly have it so much easier than the majority of the world's people, so I can't be very sympathetic here.

On the other side of the coin, I do support the idea of therapeutic programs for these kinds of obsessions. After all, I did study this kind of thing in college and like most who do, it was because of my own demons. There is always an underlying reason for self-medication; it's just that many can't pinpoint what it is alone, or fall so far down the rabbit hole they can't climb out without help. Still, I refuse to equate these kinds of addictions with substance abuse. It is truly an apples and oranges comparison. The same goes for sex addiction. Food addiction however, is even worse than substance abuse because we all have to eat, but I'm going off on a tangent now.

crazyjackcsa
01-26-2012, 06:42 PM
I'm not gonna give this short shrift; you always see these replies whenever game addiction gets talked about.
Guys, contrary to the conventional wisdom in this thread, gaming can be addicting. I had a friend and former roommate get addicted to WoW. It cost him his job and eventually our awesome, awesome late 50's Tiki kitsch apartment. It took him losing another living arrangement after ours to finally 'get it' and not play.

He still struggles sometimes. It can get a hold on people's brain and not let go. Please don't just knee-jerk "What a bunch of BS!" and discard it.

Addiction isn't B.S. framing video game addiction outside the "standard" addictions is. Anything can be an addiction Drugs, Booze, Sex, Video Games, collecting (hoarding) and whatever else you can think of.

The article comes from a bias, and that is B.S.

The 1 2 P
01-26-2012, 09:52 PM
This is better than him being addicted to crack. I doubt he'd try to sell his booty on the street for some video game money. But crack addicts wouldn't think twice about doing such a thing.

Robocop2
01-27-2012, 12:01 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=keQi8VQvuUc&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Zama
01-28-2012, 02:18 PM
That's what every addict says ;)

Lies! All lies! :D


This is better than him being addicted to crack. I doubt he'd try to sell his booty on the street for some video game money. But crack addicts wouldn't think twice about doing such a thing.

This.

Garry Silljo
01-28-2012, 02:42 PM
That's what every addict says ;)

Not the addicts addicted to being quiet. They say nothing ..... junkies.

camarotuner
01-29-2012, 12:49 AM
Can someone find me the clip from karate kid about mr miyagi talking about "balance" and how that's the whole point is to find balance in your life or it'll never work? Just play that everytime someone writes one of these articles.

Or my standard response "priorities man".

Gameguy
01-29-2012, 01:58 AM
But in coming weeks, with little access to computers and the rigid rules of the shelter, Spadaro’s mind began to clear. He sketched often, and learned chess. He made friends with former drug addicts and sober alcoholics, all activities that helped him see what life could be like without computer games.

http://img254.imageshack.us/img254/2396/101069543large.jpg



Really he just needs more vegetables.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMyAGKSRDmo

SegaAges
01-29-2012, 09:52 PM
If he had no job, who was paying for that account he was using to play the MMO (I am assuming it is WoW without even clicking on the link). If that dude's mom thought it was a problem, then why not stop paying for her son's account? Make him get the money himself. Either way it works out. If he gets arrested for doing something illegal to get the money, then he will be pulled away from his mental addiction. Either that or he would get a job. It works out either way.

EDIT: Also, I worked with addicts almost daily. True drug addicts (a main portion of my job deals with rehab clinics). Sure, I do not deal with the patients directly, but I have dealt with patients in the past. When I say I worked with them, I mean that literally. Where I work is highly known to hire former addicts who are now clean. The dude talks like he was getting high. He has never felt true withdrawal pains. The only reason why it got out of hand. Also, he held down part time jobs to pay for upgrades, so my bad on that, but who was paying for the internet? Somewhere along the line his mother could have cut him off, but she did not. He acts like and talks like he was addicted to heroin having no clue what it is truly like to be addicted to heroin. Sure, he plays video games more than he should, but it is nowhere near something like a heroin addiction.

theoakwoody
01-30-2012, 11:09 PM
Sex addiction is my favorite.

I don't know if you can be addicted to video games but I'm addicted to sex. It's not a joke and unfortunately I'll be going to SA meetings for the rest of my life to help control my addiction. I know the general assumption is that being addicted to sex is just a cop out and gives people an excuse to cheat on their spouse or sexually harass people at work. I hate it and I wish I didn't have to deal with it. I'd much rather be addicted to video games.

Queue Tiger Woods joke.

SpaceHarrier
01-31-2012, 12:17 AM
Queue Tiger Woods joke.

http://images.wikia.com/egamia/images/4/4f/Cybertiger_box.jpg

Perhaps I am addicted to video games, but in a different way. I watch youtube videos of playthroughs for hours. I scour craigslist everyday. I read forums constantly. However, I really don't play all of that much. I am constantly doing something that relates to video game culture, but as an actual gamer I'm quite lazy.

There was that time I quit my job and played 1200 hours of Phantasy Star Online though.

DylanOZ
01-31-2012, 07:12 AM
I get annoyed that people are willing to jump on us gamers when something happens, not just being addicted to the games and how it affects people, but wanting to blame society's violence on video games, like its the only medium that demonstrates it. It's all up to the parents, moderate it all, but the guy was 25 he should have been kicked out and pulled into line way before then.

Sothy
01-31-2012, 07:33 AM
I knew I had hit rock bottom when I started sucking dicks for Microsoft 1600 point cards.

kedawa
01-31-2012, 11:37 AM
I don't know if you can be addicted to video games but I'm addicted to sex. It's not a joke and unfortunately I'll be going to SA meetings for the rest of my life to help control my addiction. I know the general assumption is that being addicted to sex is just a cop out and gives people an excuse to cheat on their spouse or sexually harass people at work. I hate it and I wish I didn't have to deal with it. I'd much rather be addicted to video games.

Queue Tiger Woods joke.

Just about everyone is addicted to sex. It's why we continue to propagate as a species.
What you have is no different than what afflicts people who eat themselves into obesity.

theoakwoody
01-31-2012, 12:14 PM
Just about everyone is addicted to sex. It's why we continue to propagate as a species.
What you have is no different than what afflicts people who eat themselves into obesity.

I agree with you about the eating thing but not that everyone is addicted to sex. Just because you really like something doesn't mean you are addicted. Let's put it this way, when you start doing things that most normal people wouldn't do that put you in harms way such as losing your job or getting arrested, you are probably a sex addict. People who have a lot of sex are not addicts necessarily.

Man, I sound like Jeff Foxworthy.

kedawa
01-31-2012, 12:35 PM
I agree with you about the eating thing but not that everyone is addicted to sex. Just because you really like something doesn't mean you are addicted. Let's put it this way, when you start doing things that most normal people wouldn't do that put you in harms way such as losing your job or getting arrested, you are probably a sex addict. People who have a lot of sex are not addicts necessarily.

Man, I sound like Jeff Foxworthy.

Hypersexuality is a real thing. I know you aren't making it up.
I just don't think it can compare to an actual chemical dependency.
No matter how randy you get, I doubt it's as debilitating as a hard drug addiction.
Unless you're a ferret, I guess.

moggles
01-31-2012, 01:52 PM
Meh. Can't be worse than my masturbation addiction.

RCM
01-31-2012, 02:53 PM
Meh. Can't be worse than my masturbation addiction.

Yeah, I heard it took you 20 minutes to type that with your nose, heh.

Baloo
01-31-2012, 03:47 PM
Lots of things can cause addictions. Food, drugs, video games, sex, cigarettes, chocolate, soda, the computer, alcohol, texting, plenty of things have that effect.

Should we now chastise video games for a minor incident like this? No way. :| The biggest thing about addiction is how it affects your daily live and health. Video games and Facebook aren't nearly as harmful as drugs and alcohol in this sense. Why should we put them in the same category? This is a scare tactic to paint video games in a bad light.

goatdan
01-31-2012, 05:03 PM
Lots of things can cause addictions. Food, drugs, video games, sex, cigarettes, chocolate, soda, the computer, alcohol, texting, plenty of things have that effect.

Should we now chastise video games for a minor incident like this? No way. :| The biggest thing about addiction is how it affects your daily live and health. Video games and Facebook aren't nearly as harmful as drugs and alcohol in this sense. Why should we put them in the same category? This is a scare tactic to paint video games in a bad light.

Agreed. With just about any activity, period, there are people that can get addicted to them. There are people that can get addicted to working out. People that can get addicted to eating. To not eating. To riding roller coasters, to sex, to Facebook, to alcohol or other drugs.

The key with absolutely anything is moderation and knowing yourself. I can honestly say that I've never been drunk. My grandfather, unfortunately, turned to alcohol quite a bit when I was young, and although he was the nicest person and I love him greatly, I know that if he could get addicted to that, so could I. So, I've avoided it pretty much my entire life.

If this dude has a person issue with video games, I'm glad that he got it taken care of, and yeah -- he should probably avoid them in the future. But that doesn't mean that video games are dangerous to the vast majority of people, and this article's attempt to frame them this way (each year, the average age of a gamer goes up... oh noes!) is just asinine. It is sensationalist writing, nothing more.

The Shawn
01-31-2012, 05:10 PM
I don't know if you can be addicted to video games but I'm addicted to sex. It's not a joke and unfortunately I'll be going to SA meetings for the rest of my life to help control my addiction. I know the general assumption is that being addicted to sex is just a cop out and gives people an excuse to cheat on their spouse or sexually harass people at work. I hate it and I wish I didn't have to deal with it. I'd much rather be addicted to video games.

Queue Tiger Woods joke.


This issue has many trolling opportunities to it on a video game forum.

theoakwoody
02-01-2012, 12:36 AM
This issue has many trolling opportunities to it on a video game forum.

Nothing can be as bad as what's going on at the NG forums. I can't stop reading.

sidnotcrazy
02-01-2012, 04:47 PM
Everyone finds it so much easier to blame something for their problems. Be it drugs, games, etc. When the real problem lies with yourself.

Zthun
02-01-2012, 05:38 PM
I knew I had hit rock bottom when I started sucking dicks for Microsoft 1600 point cards.

I gotta admit...I hit the floor on this one. Though you better be getting around 10 of those cards for one session. ROFL

The 1 2 P
02-01-2012, 08:29 PM
Meh. Can't be worse than my masturbation addiction.

I don't think masturbation by itself could be necessarily called addicting, even if you do it alot. After all, it's suppose to be pleasurable. Now if you are turning down actual sex with another real person for masturbation, then yeah you're probably addicted....and need help.

Gamevet
02-01-2012, 09:58 PM
Agreed. With just about any activity, period, there are people that can get addicted to them. There are people that can get addicted to working out. People that can get addicted to eating. To not eating. To riding roller coasters, to sex, to Facebook, to alcohol or other drugs.

The key with absolutely anything is moderation and knowing yourself. I can honestly say that I've never been drunk. My grandfather, unfortunately, turned to alcohol quite a bit when I was young, and although he was the nicest person and I love him greatly, I know that if he could get addicted to that, so could I. So, I've avoided it pretty much my entire life.

If this dude has a person issue with video games, I'm glad that he got it taken care of, and yeah -- he should probably avoid them in the future. But that doesn't mean that video games are dangerous to the vast majority of people, and this article's attempt to frame them this way (each year, the average age of a gamer goes up... oh noes!) is just asinine. It is sensationalist writing, nothing more.

It's not like these kind of articles haven't existed for a long time. In the 80's, you'd see countless articles about anorexic teenagers, in the late 80's and early 90's it was crack babies, and in the past decade it's been Meth addicts. There have been countless stories about people being addicted to WOW, this is just one of the many that have been out there. People get addicted to many different things, and those stories will be told long after we are gone; it's just part of our culture and the media will exploit it until people stop reading it.