Wow man, I hope that something like that never happens to be on Ebay.
I also think that $45 is WAY too much for shipping. I shipped out 2 games from my house (NY) to the Netherlands. It cost me $10, but I shipped it Air Mail. I could have shipped it a slower way, and it would have only cost $4. So I think if she shipped it the slowest way possible, it would have only cost around $15 or so.